Lights in Life
By Citlalli Sanchez, November 25th 2024
Healing the inner child can happen in so many ways. Getting your favorite childhood snacks, visiting your favorite childhood places, enjoying yourself with something you didn't even know you would enjoy that seems out of your age range at first. But most of all, having people in your life that give you moments that you were never able to experience as a kid.
Friends are one of the first people that get you to your first sense of belonging. Friends are people who you can show your ‘unmasked’ version of yourself. They’re people who first show they love you; they’re people who don’t judge you and they’re people who keep you company because they love being with you. They give you comfort with things you don’t tell your parents.
They’re people you truly relate and connect with on a deeper level. And with best friends, those are people you can't imagine a future without and whenever you think of anything happening you imagine them. And they’re always people you can run to when you’ve achieved something, when you need help, or when you just need to talk.
My friends are one of the biggest reasons I feel my inner child has healed. As a kid I never had a best friend or friends I could play with at school. But today, I have made friends I feel like will last me a lifetime. I know in the future I could see my kids calling them their aunties and hanging out every holiday with our own families because even if we haven’t known each other for long they are my family, and I trust them with so much.
They’ve made such a big impact on my life and are one of the reasons I’m ready to start my next chapter of life without fearing being alone and without feeling like I’ll lose them even if I’m not able to see them as often as I do today.
Romantic relationships are what I feel like one of the deeper healers. In relationships your partner is someone you must completely trust full heartedly. And even though it's not quick, it gets to it at some point. It is a lot harder for other people to be able to show a more vulnerable side to their partners, but if their partner is willing to wait the more the person is willing to share.
I personally think that romantic relationships have a different way of healing considering that we always saw our parents in love and wanting something like that, but even if some of us weren’t fortunate enough to see our parents in love with each other, being in a romantic relationship helps us figure out how true love is supposed to be. Wanting to be better for your significant other to be able to be better than your parents and show your future kid how love is supposed to be. Ultimately helping those kids not get into toxic relation ships and not becoming a harmful person towards others.
Parents are one of the confusing parts of healing your inner child just because a lot of the harm could lead from what they did raising you. Lots of people have difficult relationship with their parents. It’s important to remember that you can possibly grow to have a better relationship with them, but it will take a long time to move on from resentment and that’s okay.
